then don't say anything at all."
Although I was not particularily a fan of Bambi when I was younger, this phrase has more meaning now than it ever has.
Today there was a particular individual who seemed to feel at liberty to say what was on their mind, but they felt it was important to say it directly to me. I won't disclose the circumstances, nor the individual who is being discussed, but I will say that I am left - sitting here completely shocked and appalled. Perhaps a little hurt or offended if I stew any longer. While the phrases were split up into different parts, this person knew darn well what they were doing, saying, and harming in their path of destruction.
Then again, perhaps I am the one at fault... I blog my thoughts, frustrations, concerns, queries, tears, and strength as though no one else is reading it. I speak words of truth and honesty, attempting with the most grace possible, to carry on with my head held high.
They seemed to think otherwise, and voiced those thoughts.
Do I have to like this? No, and I am not the person who will pretend to like it. Does the fact that I hate spending my mornings hooked up to an IV at the age of 21 have anything to do with rebelling against anyone in particular? No, but anyone in my position will rebel, I know that for a fact. I spent a good chunk of my morning crying and mourning the loss of what I thought was a friendship when the Holy-Mitred one, who slightly less liked by others out there, told me that she reacted the same way... while being much older and wiser.
I acknowledge the fact and would like to say that there are moments when I don't wish to talk to people, see people, or be told what to do by people who really and truly - have no idea what walking in these shoes is like.
I don't need pointless advice or hurtful and rather direct words shot in my direction, which I think - is the same thing that Thumper was saying. So, if you can't say anything nice (coming first hand from someone who has been hurt by the words of others) then please don't say anything at all.
Until later,
Sorry for being too honest in thoughts and feelings.
3 comments:
I love your honesty.
We've never met, we probably never will (under any circumstances) but I'm part of a bunch of people who care about you anyway.
I'll refrain from telling you what I think about those other folks. Because I can't say anything nice about them.
Go in love and peace and honesty my sister.
Peace
Jay
When I am speechless, I just hiss, like my cats. (And I am 49.) It says lots without saying anything but it is, o so satisfying.
It's hard to let stuff roll off you when you are already feeling so awful and down a peg.
Dude ~ if they don't like what they're reading, they can elect not log onto your blog everyday.
These are their issues, not yours. There is such thing as guidance and then there is such thing as just plain bossing someone around. Tough love may come in all forms, but these people need to pick & choose their battles.
What is really important right now? Exactly.
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